Move Past Your Fears


Every fear, every phobia, every anxiety is a bit different – and beyond that, every person experiences them differently. One person may experience nausea and sweating while another finds themselves completely paralyzed and unable to move when called to the front of the room to make a presentation. Just as everyone’s fears and how they experience them are unique, the treatments individuals approach to overcome those fears must be equally unique.

Keep in mind, however, that your work to overcome and surpass your fear or phobia will be an ongoing challenge. The seminar series is an amazing opportunity to fast track your understanding of your fear, begin to understand it, and to meet fellow sufferers for support – however, the majority of your own personal journey will focus on picking yourself back up after you look your fear in the eye.

Moving Beyond the Fear

Conquering a fear or phobia is about more than simply understanding it – it’s about embracing that fear repeatedly and moving past it within your heart. It’s a process that takes place over time and, while some will make large strides upfront, others will find that their journey is ongoing.

Setbacks are not Failure

Most people will experience setbacks over the course of their journey – remember that this is completely normal and to be expected. For example, if you have claustrophobia, you may work yourself up to taking an elevator, but find out that later in the week, you simply cannot do it – even though you have done it already. Remember: this is okay and that it is not a failure. The only way that you will fail is if you give up and feed into your fear. Find the strength to try again.

Lean on Those you Love

Your friends and family are your strength and are there for you to support you – do not be afraid to lean on them. As you work past your fear, you will need their support, certainly emotionally, but also as you work past your fear physically. Someone afraid of public speaking may find comfort in a simple hand on the shoulder or well-intended push forward. Someone with technophobia may find working with a close friend a way to safely and confidently learn a new technology while escaping the often accompanying frustrations. Agoraphobia sufferers may find that, in the company of a trusted friend, they are able to push themselves into new situations and encounter larger spaces. Use your support system – they want to help.

Reflect on Your Successes

Keep a journal of your journey. Though you will experience setbacks and though some days will undoubtedly be tougher than others, each step forward, no matter how small, is a step forward. On days that you are feeling low, read back on your earlier entries to find evidence of just how far you have come; often you will find evidence of your journey’s progress by visiting the earlier days.

Measure Your Progress

To see improvement, define what that means to you at the beginning of your journey. Set tangible goals and milestones – and break large goals into small steps. For example, if you suffer from shyness, set small steps – start with meeting a coworker in the eye, then saying hi to someone new in the office. From there, aim to attend a work happy hour (with a friend). You get the idea. Encourage yourself into new situations and count each one as a new achievement.

Importantly, share your journey – whether that is with a family member, a coach, a friend, or fellow sufferer. By sharing your journey, you are not only more accountable for continuing on your path, but you get support through each step and encouragement to continue and congratulations on each success.

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